There’s a saying in relationships that goes, “You cannot decide who you will fall for” Love often happens unexpectedly, and when it does, it’s hard to shake off. Inspired by one of the best rom-com movies, “How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days”, I decided to flip the script and write about how a guy can lose a girl instead.
While most men try to keep their love interests close, there are instances - especially in the early stages - when they might unintentionally (or deliberately) push her away.
Being from India, where relationships work quite differently than in Western cultures, I’ve extended the timeline to 30 days. Here, dating isn’t as casual, and relationships take more effort to build.
If you’re trying to push a girl away - whether on purpose or just by not putting in any effort - these are the easiest ways to make it happen.
1. Repeatedly Do the Things She Hates
If you want to drive her away, keep repeating actions she dislikes. Whether it’s interrupting her when she talks, cracking the same irritating jokes, or ignoring her preferences, these will make her believe that you don’t take her words or feelings seriously. Once she starts feeling unheard and unimportant, she’ll walk away without hesitation.
2. Don’t Make Her a Priority
Girls want to feel valued in a relationship. If you constantly put her second - choosing your friends over her, responding late to her texts, or making her feel like an afterthought - she will start to lose interest. Over time, she’ll realize she deserves someone who sees her as a priority, not just an option.
3. Disrespect Her
Respect is the foundation of any relationship. The moment you start disrespecting her - whether through harsh words, dismissive behavior, or making fun of her opinions - you’re paving the way to losing her. Self-respect matters to every girl, and if she feels like she’s not valued, she won’t stick around.
4. Always Talk to Her in an Angry Tone
Girls are emotional beings, and they pick up on the energy you bring into conversations. If every interaction is filled with irritation, frustration, or unnecessary aggression, she will start associating you with negativity. No one wants to be in a toxic environment, and she will leave to find someone who brings her peace instead of stress.
5. Avoid Doing Things That Excite Her
Relationships thrive on shared excitement and happiness. If she enjoys surprises, date nights, or spontaneous plans, and you completely ignore those things, she’ll start feeling unfulfilled. A girl wants to experience joy and adventure with her partner - if you consistently fail to bring enthusiasm, she’ll lose interest and move on.
6. Lie to Her - A Lot
Trust is everything. If you keep lying - no matter how small or big - she will eventually catch on. Girls hate dishonesty, and once the trust is broken, it’s nearly impossible to regain. The more you lie, the faster she will pull away from you, realizing she can’t build a future with someone unreliable.
7. Show No Love or Attention
A relationship is like a delicate plant that needs regular nurturing. If you stop showing love, expressing appreciation, or paying attention to her needs, she’ll feel neglected. Girls crave emotional connection, and if you fail to provide that, the relationship will wither away, leaving you alone in the end.
8. Pretend to Listen but Don’t Actually Care
One of the biggest turn-offs for a girl is when her partner pretends to listen but doesn’t actually care. If she’s sharing her thoughts, feelings, or daily experiences, and you respond with a distracted “hmm” or “okay,” she will catch on. Women want to be heard and understood - if you don’t offer genuine attention, she will stop sharing and eventually walk away.
9. Blame All Your Mistakes on Her
A relationship should be a partnership, not a blame game. If you mess up and constantly shift the blame onto her, she will lose trust in you. No one wants to be in a relationship where they are always made to feel guilty or responsible for everything going wrong. Girls appreciate a guy who can take responsibility and apologize sincerely.
10. Make Zero Effort
Relationships require effort from both sides. If you never plan dates, cancel plans last minute, and don’t contribute to making the relationship special, she’ll notice. A girl doesn’t want to feel like she’s the only one trying. If you consistently show laziness and lack of initiative, she will eventually give up on you.
Last Thoughts
While this article takes a lighthearted and humorous approach, the reality is that these behaviors can seriously damage a relationship.
Most guys don’t intend to lose a girl, but sometimes, they unknowingly push her away by neglecting the little things that matter. If you truly care about a girl, do the opposite of everything listed above.
Show respect, prioritize her, listen, be honest, and make an effort to keep the relationship exciting. Love isn’t just about attraction - it’s about effort, understanding, and mutual respect.
But hey, if you are looking to *intentionally* lose a girl, well… now you have the perfect playbook to do it in 30 days!