Sometimes in life, we come across unexpected truths. Some are beautiful, while some hit us hard. Life never really goes as planned - and that’s okay. What matters is how we deal with the things that happen to us.
If something good happens because of someone, we say thank you. That’s a basic human gesture. But if something bad happens because of someone… then what? It’s up to us how we respond. Whether we forgive them or not.
Some mistakes are small - we can let them go. Maybe someone forgot something, said something wrong, or didn’t show up when they promised.
These things happen, and with a little understanding, they can be overlooked.
But some mistakes hurt deeply.
Maybe your partner cheated on you.
Maybe you lost all your parents’ savings in gambling.
Maybe you failed an important exam.
Or maybe you ended up hurting someone badly, knowingly or unknowingly.
In all these moments, forgiveness comes into the picture. Either we are asking for it, or someone is asking us to forgive them.
Now the real question is - should we hold a grudge against someone who did wrong to us?
Honestly, holding on to that grudge doesn’t do any good. It doesn’t change the past. It only keeps you tied to that pain. And slowly, it starts disturbing your peace.
Yes, I agree - some mistakes feel unforgivable. There are people who break your trust, make fun of your belief, and treat your honesty as weakness. And sometimes, you’re not the only one - they do it with many others too. You were just one more person on their list.
But even then - you know who you are. And that’s what makes you different.
If you keep carrying the pain they gave you, you’re giving them power over your peace. That’s not fair to you. That’s why, forgive not for their sake, but for your own.
Like Johnathan Lockwood Huie once wrote:
“Forgive others, not because they deserve forgiveness, but because you deserve peace.“
It doesn’t mean you accept what they did.
It doesn’t mean you forget.
It just means… you’re choosing peace over pain.
So, forgive the small mistakes and block those who don’t deserve a second chance. Walk away peacefully. Close their chapter in your life - not with hate, but with self-respect.
Because in the end, your peace matters more than holding on to someone who never valued you in the first place.