Life does not always go as we plan. We dream, we hope, and we expect things to happen in a certain way. But sometimes, despite all our efforts, things don’t turn out the way we want. In those moments, frustration and sadness creep in, making us question why life is so unfair. However, if we shift our mindset and understand that everything is happening according to the Supreme Lord’s plan, we can find peace. He has a greater plan for each of us, and even if we do not understand it now, in the long run, it will be for our best.
We often hear the saying, “Jo hota hai, ache ke liye hota hai“. It may be hard to believe at times, especially when we face heartbreak, failures, or losses. But when we trust the process, we realize that every incident, good or bad, is shaping us for something better. God will never give us something that is not meant for us. If something or someone is being taken away, it only means He has something greater in store.
Trusting His Process and Timing
It is natural for us to feel restless when things do not go our way. We want immediate results, instant gratification, and solutions right away. But life does not work like that. Just like a tree takes years to bear fruit, our life’s blessings also come at the right time. When we put our faith in God’s plan, we free ourselves from unnecessary stress and overthinking. His timing is always perfect, even if we don’t see it right now.
Imagine planting a seed today and expecting it to become a full-grown tree by tomorrow. That’s not how nature works, and similarly, life also follows a divine timeline. If something is not happening now, it does not mean it never will; it just means the time is not right yet. When we trust His plan, we find solace in knowing that what is meant for us will always find its way.
Letting Go of the Burden
One of the biggest reasons people feel stressed, sad, or burdened is because they carry the weight of expectations. They hold on to things that are beyond their control. But what if we let go of that burden? What if we tell ourselves, “It’s okay, I did my part, and the rest is up to Him”? That mindset alone can bring immense peace.
Take love, for example. If you express your feelings to someone and they do not reciprocate, does that mean you were wrong in loving them? No. It simply means that you both were not meant to be together. Instead of blaming yourself or the other person, understand that God has a different plan. Maybe they are meant for someone else, and you are meant for someone else too. The best thing you can do is move on gracefully, without resentment.
This does not mean you cannot be friends. If you truly care for that person, you will be happy to see them happy, even if it is not with you. This approach allows you to remain free from negativity, guilt, and pain. You did your best, and that is enough.
Seeing Things from a Different Perspective
Often, people get caught up in their own perceptions of reality. They see the world only through their own eyes, making it difficult to understand others’ emotions. But perception and perspective are two different things.
Perception is how we see the world based on our own experiences, beliefs, and feelings.
Perspective is when we step out of our own shoes and try to see the world from someone else’s point of view.
For example, in a one-sided love situation, your perception might tell you, “She doesn’t love me back, so it’s unfair.” But if you shift to perspective, you’ll realize, “She has her own choices, just like I do. If I love someone, it doesn’t mean they must love me back.”
When you start seeing situations from a broader angle, you will begin to understand the emotions and decisions of others. This not only helps in dealing with rejection or disappointment but also makes you a more empathetic and understanding person.
Everything Happens for a Reason
Think about times in your life when something didn’t go as planned, but later, you realized it was for the best. Maybe you didn’t get the job you desperately wanted, but later, you found an even better opportunity. Maybe you lost a relationship that you thought was everything, but later, you met someone who truly understood and appreciated you.
There was once a king who went hunting in the woods. While approaching a deer, his little finger got cut. The king had a minister who was very spiritual and always said, “Whatever happens, happens for the best.” When the king returned, he was furious and told the minister what had happened. As usual, the minister repeated, “Whatever happens, happens for the best.” This angered the king, and he ordered the minister to be arrested.
Weeks later, the king went hunting again but was captured by a tribe that sacrificed men to their god. They prepared to offer him, but one of them noticed his cut finger and informed the leader. The leader declared that the person for the offering must be in perfect condition. Since the king had a missing part, they let him go. Realizing the truth in his minister’s words, the king returned, apologized, and started living a more peaceful and trusting life.
God’s plan is always bigger than our understanding. He removes people and things from our lives not to punish us, but to protect us from something that is not meant for us. Sometimes, rejections are redirections. Sometimes, closed doors lead to better paths. We may not see it at the moment, but when we look back, we realize that everything happened just the way it was supposed to.
For Those Who Don’t Believe in God
Not everyone believes in the existence of a divine force controlling our lives. For those who do not believe in God, the explanation can be found in the concept of karma. If things are not going your way, it could be a result of past actions. The law of karma states that our present reality is shaped by our past deeds. Instead of feeling helpless, one can take this as a motivation to do good, be kind, and make conscious efforts toward positive actions. By ensuring that our present actions are good, we can expect better outcomes in the future.
So whether you believe in God’s plan or the law of karma, the key is to accept life as it comes and work towards improving yourself. When we focus on doing the right thing, life naturally rewards us in ways we never expected.
The Path to True Happiness
True happiness does not come from controlling every aspect of life. It comes from accepting, trusting, and letting go. The moment we stop resisting and start flowing with life, we feel lighter. We free ourselves from unnecessary pain and disappointment. Happiness is not about always getting what we want; it is about appreciating what we have and trusting what is yet to come.
So the next time things don’t go your way, instead of feeling sad, remind yourself: “It’s all part of His plan.” He knows what is best for you, and He will never do anything to harm you. Trust Him, trust His process, and most importantly, trust that whatever is happening is leading you to where you are meant to be.